gussiegoose - 2004-07-10 21:31:16
We've been home (from China) 5 mos. I too dread the day when The Goose understands what's being said. So far I've heard, "What, can't you get pregnant?" and "How much did it cost you?" My husband has responded to the cost question with "all of my heart."
michelle - 2004-07-11 10:15:44
I just wanted to add something about your comment that your daughter will likely be only average at math since you and your husband are not good at it. I am an adoptee and currently pregnant with a donor (sperm)conceived fetus. I have been thinking about the nature vs nuture issue all my life, and much more so now. I am a whiz at math, have always been, and neither of my parents can do it at all. They stopped helping me with my homework once I started alegbra, in the 5th grade. I am just saying that any adopted (or donor) child might have gifts or talents that she did not get from you and you might not fully understand ... but finding out what they are and how to deal with them is part of the fun.
virginia - 2004-07-11 10:25:27
Michelle, I actually couldn't agree with you more, I guess the sarcasm bit was lost in typing.... My dad was an engineer and neither my brother nor I could have made it past high school math, but I'm a professional linguist with 6 languages under my belt and my parents still strugle with their 2nd language. So I totally agree that children have gifts that have nothing to do with their genes, but the point I was also trying to make is that jsut because a person is Asian it doesn't necessarily mean that they are one way or another, and that what your parents teach you at home goes a long way in developing your skills too.
gussiegoose - 2004-07-12 14:05:52
You need to get these: for those annoying questions or remarks. thanks for the comment on my blog.
Brooklyn Mama - 2004-07-12 19:07:29
Ugh, the comments really get to me after a while . . . I seem to especially get the "she's so lucky" one, to which I always reply, "We're the lucky ones." Recently, someone got a little annoyed when I responded to them that way and said, "Oh, I know, I know!" Oh, well. It's hard because people mean well, but I don't want my daughter to constantly hear how lucky she's supposed to be. Regarding nature vs. nurture (as if it were an either/or situation :) ), I think we all have talents that are not "from" our parents, whether we are genetically related to them or not. And as for your husband's friend, what a dumbass "joke." I wouldn't let that one slide, but that's just super-sensitive me. ;)

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